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Don’t jugde a book by its cover

Don’t be so quick to judge others.

At first, you only see, what someone wants to show you. It takes time to get to know somebody. Some people open up very quickly, but others need more time. I bet you’ve heard someone say that they would love to swap lives with some celebrities and if you haven’t – lucky you. Sometimes people have no idea what a person came through, but they think they know everything best anyway. I think that everyone under- or overestimated someone in their life at least once. It’s often because of stereotypes occurring in almost every society – we’ve been dealing with this since childhood.

“Things your appearance says about you.”

Type this phrase in Google and you’ll find a lot of different articles telling you what you should focus on while meeting someone. It’s obvious that when we see a person who is neatly dressed and is smiling at us, there is a huge chance that we’ll think they are sympathetic. On the other hand, if someone has ragged clothes on, the first thought coming to our minds is that the person doesn’t really care about themselves. It is natural for people to judge others this way because of different assosiations we have in our minds, but we shouldn’t generalise. Maybe the smiling person only pretends like they are nice? Or maybe the “sloppy” man is an forigner, who was mugged in the morning? We never know.

The first impression counts.

The first couple of seconds after seeing someone for the first time can decide if they’re gonna consider you as a symphatetic and trustworthy person or not. The impression made this way can be often misleading, but subconciously we believe it anyway. People sometimes try to seem like they’re nice, even though they aren’t. Some others, who are in fact great individuals, aren’t that popular because they aren’t good at making nice first impressions. 

Treat everyone equally.

No matter what social group they are from, no matter how they look like. Actually, you never know who you’re talking to, unless you get to know the person. I think that if everyone stopped to judge other by their appearance and the first impression, the world would be so much better. Judging is somehow natural for people, I guess – we often follow our instincts. I don’t think it’s good or bad – it just happens. We need to decide if we like/trust someone or not, basing on our experiences – somehow people need to determine if they wants to enter into a relationship with another person or not. For now, we just have to be careful and try to get to know people as much as we can and think twice before we judge somebody. 

The good advice.

After people judge others looks, some of them will proceed to giving those people great pieces of advice. After all, they know what is best for complete strangers, right? The truth is, they don’t even realize how wrong they can be. It often depends on the context, but if we don’t know someone that much, we shouldn’t tell them, how they should live and what they should do in order to feel happy (or maybe to make us happy because we would like them to change, even though they already feel good about themselves). We can’t expect people to change only because we like another vision of that person, which we’ve created in our heads.

For example, don’t ever tell someone that they should cut/grow hair just because you would like them to. We can say that in our opinion someone would look better if their hair was a little bit shorter, but that’s it. It’s the person’s choice what they’re gonna do with this information and we have nothing to do about it.

Have a nice day!

Thanks for reading! And remember – the first impression is not the only thing that matters. Kisses!

The photos are taken by an amazing photographer Martyna Amerek. 
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16 thoughts on “Don’t jugde a book by its cover”

  1. Wonderful read. This is true. People often make mistakes by judging wrongly after first meeting. First impression is way too short to judge any one. We need to give time to others and ourselves to know some one. Thanks for sharing.

  2. What fun striped pants and I agree with your words – “we should never judge a book by its cover” is a good saying to keep in mind! 🙂

    Hope that you are having a great week 🙂

    1. Yes, sometimes even if you think you know someone doesn’t have to mean that you really know them.
      Kisses ❤️

  3. Moim zdaniem pierwsze wrażenia są czasem pozorami, jakie człowiek stwarza. Nie bez powodu mówi się, że “pozory mylą”. Chciałam napisać, że zanim człowieka ocenimy, powinniśmy go dobrze poznać. Ale to nieprawda. Bo nie powinniśmy oceniać ludzi. Kim my jesteśmy? Nawet jeśli mamy lepiej w życiu, jeśli nasza sytuacja finansowa/osobista wygląda lepiej, to i tak nie jest żaden wyznacznik.


    1. Zgadzam się całkowicie! Osądzanie i porównywanie się do innych jest krzywdzące. Zawsze znajdzie się ktoś, kto ma lepiej pod jakimś względem. W drugą stronę też to działa – patrząc na kogoś, od kogo my mamy w pewnym aspekcie lepiej, można tylko wpędzić się w niepotrzebną pychę.
      No właśnie – kim jesteśmy, by kogokolwiek oceniać? Niech każdy żyje sobie tak jak chce, dopóki nikogo nie krzywdzi.
      Pozdrawiam serdecznie ❤️
      PS W menu głównym jest opcja przełączenia witryny na język polski 😉

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