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Naive psychologists

Hi. Today there’s something about a phenomenon that is quite common.

(very common, I would say…) It was first described by Lee Ross and then examined by other scientists.

Naive realism describes people’s tendency to believe that they perceive the social world “as it is”—as objective reality—rather than as a subjective construction and interpretation of reality. This belief that one’s perceptions are realistic, unbiased interpretations of the social world has two important implications.

First, that other, rational people will have similar perceptions as oneself.

Second, that other people who have different perceptions from oneself must be uninformed (i.e., not privy to the same information as oneself), irrational, or biased.” (Baumeister and Vohs, 2007)

It may seem obvious that the way we perceive reality is very subjective because it’s about our feelings and thoughts, right? But at the same time, we sometimes think the way described above.

Why? Because we sometimes forget that there is no such thing like one, universal way of thinking.

We all have different experiences, so we all perceive the world in a different way.

You know, variety is the spice of life. On a daily basis, we usually surround ourselves with people that are similar to us, so we have similar opinions on many topics. This is why we often think that the way we see the world is objective – we often find confirmation to a thesis we came up with because we see that other people would agree with us.

But think of more diverse social backgrounds – maybe not your closest friends, but people you see when you go out to buy buns for breakfast. You don’t expect them to think the same way as you or your friends, do you?

Let’s not judge others while being guided by your own beliefs.

Well, don’t ever judge others, that’s what I mean. You have no idea what somebody came through and what caused that they think the way they do. We have a set of values that has been evolving because of numerous events in our lives.

The way we perceive reality – our feelings, emotions, thoughts – are really subjective. Recently, I read a quote of George Carlin’s and I think it describes the idea I want to share with you pretty well.

“Have you ever noticed that anybody driving slower than you is an idiot, and anyone going faster than you is a maniac?” George Carlin

Let’s not tag people.

Accepting the other point of view.

We don’t have to understand it. The fact that somebody doesn’t share our opinion doesn’t mean they are somehow uninformed or their opinion is based on careless reasoning. It means they don’t share our opinion. Nothing more, nothing less.

I write about my thoughts here.

A lot of you give me really positive feedback and I know that we have similar views on numerous topics. I’m also aware of the fact that some of you might not share my opinions and our sets of values may differ in a lot of ways. I think it’s beautiful and I think that good communication, not tagging, is the key to precious relationships.

Thank you for being here with me. I hope you have a great day. Kisses!



Here you can find more info about naive realism.

Baumeister, R. and Vohs, K., 2007. Encyclopedia Of Social Psychology. Thousand Oaks, Calif.: Sage Publications, pp.602, 603.

8 thoughts on “Naive psychologists”

  1. Ah well said and very true. On the one hand we do live in a very judgmental world, but on the other hand it seems so many do so much that is not good and they are never held accountable. But I guess it has always been like this.

    Allie of

    1. Well, I believe that deep down inside each person wants to have a clear conscience and I hope I am right ❤️

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