Yes, it’s the end of the list. It’s that simple. Well, we often have this feeling that people talk about us and it’s normal that we want them to think highly of us. But let me explain something:
- others really don’t think about your appearance or behavior too often – they also have their own problems,
- even if they take your name in vain, you don’t really have an impact on what they will say (even if you think that everything you do matters for them).
People are very partial. If they like somebody, they will praise this person and justify their bad choices. If they want to criticize others, they’ll always find reasons for that. Don’t worry about something you have no impact on.
You are enough.
If somebody tells you for example, that you’re stupid, even though you know that it’s not true, don’t try to show them how intelligent you are. Such words are very harmful and you can start thinking: “what if what that person said was true?” You may start proving to other people that you’re smart, but in fact, the only person you have to convince is yourself. You need to believe that you are enough. Ignore people who say that you’re not.
“I would do something, but what will people say…”
Following your dreams is one of the most important things in your life. Imagine yourself in 20 years. If you always worry about “what will others say?” and it stops you from doing what you actually like, you’ll probably be a bitter person who has never done anything risky. If you’re someone who wants to chase their dreams, I guess you’ll achieve much more because you won’t listen to people criticizing you.
Don’t be afraid of making mistakes.
Everybody makes mistakes. It’s important not to repeat the same one over and over again.
Let’s say that you did something inappropriate. In most cases, somebody will make a comment on that behind your back – don’t delude yourself that it won’t happen. We already know that people like to gossip – so what now? You don’t have to prove to them that you normally don’t behave like that – you don’t have to prove that you’re a valuable person. Don’t worry about people who judge you and don’t want to get to know you more because of one mistake you made. Mistakes are to learn from them, not to worry about them.
Real friends will accept you just the way you are.
They can help you grow and develop your skills. They can give you pieces of advice – tips from someone who knows you well are much more valuable than comments from strangers. But they should never expect you to change.
I hope you have friends with whom you dare to be yourself!
Have a wonderful week. Kisses!